As we start a new year, it’s tempting to create a list of resolutions, but I believe the power of habits and disciplines far outweighs that of grand, fleeting resolutions. Instead of resolutions, consider instilling habits that align with your long-term goals.

Habits are the building blocks of a lifetime, while resolutions often fade with the passing of seasons.

To kickstart this transformative process, ask yourself: “What is my ‘why’?” Why are you pursuing an education or a career in the United States? This is not just about setting goals, but understanding the deeper motivations that drive you. It could be the aspiration to provide a better future for your family, a burning desire to make a mark in your chosen field, or a dream that’s been guiding you since childhood. When you get to what you think is your answer, ask yourself ‘why’ again. Really dig deep and get to the root of your motivation.

Clarity on your “why” provides a solid foundation for motivation during challenging times. Reflect on this and write it down. This ‘why’ will be your anchor, especially during times when the path ahead seems daunting.

The second pivotal question in this transformative process is: “Am I following a ‘herd’ mentality, or carving my own path?” It’s easy to flow with the tide, but true fulfillment comes from aligning your actions with your personal ‘why.’ You are uniquely made. Your gifts, talents, interests, skills, and mind are unique to you. When you suppress them to “fit in”, you’re missing out on the unique life you were meant to live. This introspection can be transformative, leading you to choices that truly resonate with your inner values and aspirations. Don’t look to the right and to the left to see if you are meeting a status quo. Choose habits that move the needle toward your ‘why’, not someone else’s or based on what someone else says is your ‘why’.

As you delve into these reflections, I urge you to look beyond the horizon of personal success. In this context, consider the concept of servant leadership, a timeless principle exemplified brilliantly by Lord Jesus. It’s about leading with empathy, focusing on the growth and well-being of the communities and people you serve. This approach doesn’t diminish your ambitions but enriches them with a deeper sense of purpose.

You have the potential to create a ripple effect - impacting your peers, your communities, your college campus, within your company, and even the broader society. I encourage you to envision your role as a servant leader.

 
Three Questions for Reflection

Take 5 minutes today and ask yourself these questions.

1. What is your “why”? Be crystal clear on your purpose and let it be the driving force behind your actions. Whether it’s supporting your family or pursuing your passion, your “why” will be your compass.
2. Do you have a “herd” mentality? Reflect on whether you’re following the crowd or leading with purpose.
3. How does your “why” positively impact others? Consider the ripple effect your actions can have on your community, workplace, and society.

Practical Steps Towards Building Purposeful Habits

Implement these habits into your routine on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis to step into our purpose and lead with compassion and empathy.

1. Daily Reflection: Dedicate a few minutes each day to reflect on your actions and how they align with your ‘why.’ This will keep you grounded and focused.
2. Seek Feedback: Regularly seek feedback from peers, mentors, or professors. Their perspectives can provide valuable insights into your journey.
3. Consistent Learning: Whether it’s through books, courses, or workshops, continue expanding your knowledge and skills. This habit not only enhances your capabilities but also keeps you adaptable and innovative.
4. Networking: Build and nurture relationships within and beyond your immediate circle. Remember, the diversity of your network can often be the catalyst for new opportunities and perspectives.
5. Mindfulness and Self-Care: In the pursuit of goals, don’t overlook the importance of mental and physical well-being. Practices like meditation, exercise, and proper nutrition are crucial. Remember, your journey in the United States is not just about academic or career achievements. It’s a narrative of resilience, adaptation, and impact. Every step you take can inspire, every success you achieve can motivate, and every challenge you overcome can teach.

As you navigate this journey, Chai and Coaching is committed to being a companion and a resource. We believe in the power of community, shared experiences, and collective wisdom.

Let’s start this year not just with ambition or resolutions, but with purpose, empathy, and a vision to create a positive impact. Your story is not just about you; it’s an opportunity to look beyond yourself and impact those around you.

We'd love to hear your thoughts on these ideas and how you're implementing them in your life. Feel free to share your experiences and insights with our community. Together, let's inspire and uplift each other on this journey.

Cheers ☕